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by Yangki Christine Akiteng
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Oh you'll find the right man! You were too good for him anyway Yangki
Some good points, some utter rubbish.First off, looking for a relationships is dumb. It's forced, and blinds you with expectations instead of recognizing what's there, and what isn't. That's right, some people just aren't right for each other. Don't project your neediness on others. Recognize them for what and who they are. If they just don't do it for you, then move on. This is why dating is stupid. It's forced, and artificial. If you feel you need a relationship, then you aren't ready for one. You'd only end up treating the other person as an object that is supposed to "save" you from something. Relationships aren't based on need, but desire. A failure to understand this will lead to misery.Second, what exactly does "not chasing what you can't get" mean? Are you saying that once a woman has made it know that she doesn't find you attractive, stop chasing? I can agree with that, but without more information, I can't quite understand what you mean enough to say for sure. I also think that chasing is stupid to begin with. What is this, kindergarten? What you chase will run away. If, on the other hand, you mean don't go after women "out of your league" then I think you're completely off base. There's no such thing. One should always go after a mate that is equal to or ideally better than you in at least some way. That that thing is or those traits are depends on the person, there are no absolutes. A relationships is largely built on what each can provide each other. Settling is allowing yourself to be chained to someone you know deep inside is a mediocre match, but because of low self-esteen, you've gone with any old gal. It's unfair both to you and the other person to do that, because it's a lie from the start. You want someone that inspires you, and causes growth and encourages excellence. Relationships aren't about banging and being comfortable. That is the path to stagnation, misery, mutual resentment, half-heartedness and a terrible burden who's best outcome is divorce. You need to realize that relationships aren't necessary; you can live a full, wonderful life without one, and man single people do. A bad relationship is infinitely worse than none at all. Think of relationships as an added bonus, a possibility you're open to, but won't force.Third, you talk about men evaluating women physically in a somewhat negative way, but later you give credibility to the same assessments when they're made by women. What kind of double standard is that, especially given that appearance is often much more meaningful to men than it is to women? Obviously, if a man thinks a woman's legs are too short, or breasts aren't acceptable, then she's not for him. Why force it? Do you want him to pretend to like what he can't like? To lie to you and himself, out of charity for your feelings? You're just asking for resentment. You seem to be painting a picture where women are holding out the carrot on a stick, that they're in charge, and that men are at their feet, pleading to be with them. Get real. If I met an older, homely woman with all the inner qualities that matter, but none of the physical, would I go for her? No. I may befriend her, but I wouldn't be compelled to do anything beyond that. Just as it is shallow for a man to *only* take into account appearance, it is equally shallow of him, and actually more insidious of him, to *only* take into account personality or what have you. You must satisfy all criteria. He has no obligation to like you, or any other woman. A man with naturally high standards is worthy of applause. Too many settle for trash.There is only one core princple, and that is to be sensitive to the other person without losing yourself. Be yourself. Many people don't know how to do that because they're so bend on approval. How childish. No one wants a relationship with an approval seeking flake because you can't have a relationship with someone like that. They're never who they really are, and can't give of themselves.Insightful and well written opinion. Thank you.
Christine,Much of what is said is your opinion. Majority of it is not true.
You know something, women like yourself are the reason there are so many misogynists in the world.
hahahah Jon that doesn't work and shows your immaturity when it comes to relationships ... only insecure women will fall for that type of behaviour :)
Christine - as a superficial airhead I take offense to this article.
holy sh** i am everything there except the ones about sex and number 10, damn...
I AM a woman and I don't get this...sure, some of the things make sense, but some are just weird. For example: to me shy guys are cute! I honestly don't think lacking confidence is a BAD thing. Lots of people are shy - I used to be incredibly shy myself, and I still find it adorable.Seriously, Sexually Invisible? The Wet Blanket? I don't really know but, isn't it about finding the the perfect person for you, not the general 'perfect' person?
Only type of man I don't see here is the "Silent Loverr" I'm not saying an actual Psycho, but those quiet mysterious types that have all the stuff when it comes to relationship, but this basically nailed all men to the wall. What about those guys too? No Downing for them
I think the author makes it a point to bash every type of man so that every man who reads this article will feel bad enough about himself to give her some money in exchange for her solution. Very, very manipulative, but I guess she doesn't know how else to make a buck.You may be right about that! I've joined dating sites a lot over the years. I hope they really want to see people find that special someone, but at the same time, you have to wonder if they dating site isn't just viewing us as meal-tickets.
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