Yangki Christine Akiteng

Why You Fall In Love With Those Who Already Have Someone Else



Posted: Tuesday, December 26, 2006

by
The Real People's Love Doctor

I first noticed this phenomenon in my own life. For months, no one seemed to even notice me but as soon as I meet a guy I really like, from no where all the others start popping out of the woodworks. Men begging for my phone number, secret lovers sending me flowers and stuff like that. All the time I am wondering “where were you all these months?"

Working with a number of single men and women over a period of time, many have reported that the moment they found someone else, they became attractive to many others. One of my clients wrote to me asking “what have you done with me?" I told him “Nothing. That’s just the way love is"?

But what exactly is happening?

The African people have a saying “sexual energy desires sexual energy and is attracted to itself". And this is how it works.

When we are alone and looking for love we are in a state of “longing" described as a lack seeking completion. But it is stranger than that. It is the desire for union with another’s sexual energy. Something inside of us (sexual energy) wants to unite with something outside of us (another’s sexual energy). But it gets more interesting. When we “fall in love" we are engulfed with an “aura of sexual energy". This “aura of sexual energy" sexualizes not just us but everything else within its magnetic field. Such that whoever comes within our “sexual aura’s" magnetic field gets their own sexual energy (which is a longing within them) activated, and sometimes their sexual energy gets tangled with our own causing them to be sexually attracted to us.

It’s a little mind boggling. But this where the African saying “sexual energy desires sexual energy and is attracted to itself" gets even more interesting: These people are not necessarily attracted to us they are attracted to our “sexual energy." Our sexual energy activates their sexual energy.

As a dating coach this is how I use this wisdom to help others.

1. First of all you have to activate your own sexual energy. The simplest way is to “fall in love" with yourself. And voila! You are radiating “sexual energy"

2. Get yourself into the proximity of others who have their “sexual energy" activated. Best places are where “love" seems to abound like engagement parties and weddings, etc. Or ask a friend who is obviously in “love" to set you up on a double date. That way when your friend’s “sexual energy" sexualizes everything in its immediate energy field you and the other double date will be included. Anything can happen.

But did I also mention there is a catch. Your sexual energy has to be directed to a particular person and that person’s sexual energy has to be pointed towards you for sexual attraction to happen. This is where a healthy knowledge and appreciation of “the art of seduction" comes in. The art of seduction can be used as a vehicle for playfully drawing out the other person into acting (directing their sexual energy towards you) to create an exclusive emotional bond that is otherwise extremely rare.

It’s also important to remember that “attraction" at this level may not last long unless there are other stable aspects necessary for a lasting bond – like intellectual and emotional attraction.



Internationally recognized Relationships Coach and author of three popular eBooks: Dating Your Ex, The Art of Seducing Out Of Fullness and Playing Hard To Get the Love Way, Yangki Christine Akiteng has devoted years of her life helping men and women create loving, authentic, exciting and fulfilling relationships. Having lived and worked in Africa, Europe and North America, Yangki brings a unique international perspective and multicultural understanding to her work. For more articles and information on the services she offers to singles and couples please visit: www.torontosnumber1datedoctor.com

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