Yangki Christine Akiteng

Do Women Find A Crying Man Attractive Or A Turn Off?



Posted: Friday, March 02, 2007

by
The Real People's Love Doctor

Does crying make you more or less of a man? This is the one of those age-old questions which gets taken for granted and has never been fully answered, until now...

Crying has always been believed to be a sign of femininity and a trait that should be left to women. In cultures where “Macho" or “Alpha Male" are considered a symbol of masculinity and where men are supposed to be aggressive, tough, analytical, emotionally detached, ambitious, and focused on power and domination and women are supposed to be more modest, understanding, sensitive, tender, nurturing, intuitive, emotional, passive, indecisive, impulsive, sentimental, and concerned with beauty; crying especially in front of a woman is considered unmanly, a sign of weakness or timidity

Because we’ve been conditioned to think that one is either masculine or feminine and can not be both we see a man who expresses his feminine side as taking away from his masculine side. This thinking is faulty from get-go and has nothing to do with is natural or with reality. Many ancient and many other philosophies recognize that every person is born with qualities of the opposite sex within her or him, not simply in the biological sense, but also in the psychological and psychosexual sense of attitudes, feelings, dreams and desires.

Men because of their biological make up express more of the masculine energy (engaging and challenging their external world including their genitals which are more externally pronounced) and women because of their biological make up express more of their feminine energies (creating a safe inner space that represents sensitivity and nurturing, yeah, yeah including the genitals). If a man or woman is well adjusted and harmoniously balanced, the feminine traits of the man and the masculine traits of the woman are both expressed. To say one is an "ideal/real man" or "ideal/real" woman would be to say one is an ideal human being with a good balance of both sexual energies.

The balance of these energies basically means men need women in their lives to see the reflection of their own feminine energies and women need men in their lives to see the reflection of their own masculine energies.

When a man has his masculine energy well developed he can afford to express his feminine energy without fear, timidity or feeling a threat to his masculinity which is already strong and developed. He can afford to break down in tears and sob uncontrollably in front of millions of men and women and still be the sexiest man in the crowd. But when a man’s masculinity is not well developed and strong, he’ll tend to suppress his feminine side (i.e. crying, being sensitive, nurturing etc) because he is already insecure about his masculinity. He'll tend to express a more "macho" or Alpha Male" image to try to cover up his insecurity about his masculinity.

If he is not showcasing his fake masculinity, he'll be hiding from it by being door-mat  "nice". And when he cries or sobs he comes across as “feminine" because his masculine energy is overshadowed by his feminine energy and his sobbing and whimpering can be a major irritant and turn off to women who naturally desire a man to mirror their own (developed) masculine energy.

On the other side, a woman who is insecure about her femininity will be confused and uncomfortable when she sees a man crying (“hey, I am the woman and I am the one supposed to cry") because she is operating out of insecurity and lack of understanding of her own dual energies.

The bottom line is, if you are man enough to cry, real women who are secure about themselves will find you very, very sexy when you express your own feminine energy. A man who is more sensitive, tender, compassionate, sympathetic and basically communicates that he s “only human" is not a weak man but an "ideal/REAL man."

To all real men out there let the tears flow free. It is not just human, it's sexy!

You can find a lot more information about using your feminine and masculine energies to seduce and attract the opposite sex on my website. I have a rather different perspective and approach to seduction and sexual attraction!


About the Author: Christine Akiteng, Internationally renowned Sexual Confidence/Dating Coach and author of ebook: The Art Of Seducing Out Of Fullness™ helps men and women cultivate that NATURAL EASE that draws the opposite sex in - without the mental stress and emotional frustration of today's dating dynamics.

Christine's websites: http://www.torontosnumber1datedoctor.com and http://www.theartofseducingoutoffullness.com

Internationally recognized Relationships Coach and author of three popular eBooks: Dating Your Ex, The Art of Seducing Out Of Fullness and Playing Hard To Get the Love Way, Yangki Christine Akiteng has devoted years of her life helping men and women create loving, authentic, exciting and fulfilling relationships. Having lived and worked in Africa, Europe and North America, Yangki brings a unique international perspective and multicultural understanding to her work. For more articles and information on the services she offers to singles and couples please visit: www.torontosnumber1datedoctor.com

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