Yangki Christine Akiteng

Playing Hard To Get - How To Make Him/Her Want To Chase You



Posted: Saturday, March 17, 2007

by
The Real People's Love Doctor

In my article: Does Playing Hard To Get Make You More Attractive? I mentioned that the two biggest mistakes men and women make with playing hard to get is to 1) Play hard-to-get even when they don't yet know if the other person is interested at all; 2) Play much too hard to get that the other person thinks you are “not interested".

If you are playing hard to get and no one is chasing you, that is not playing hard to get, that is lying to yourself. Before you start playing hard to get you must first make the sure the other person wants to play, and is interested in the chase. You must first give him or her reason to want to chase you.

In the culture I was raised in, this is called: "the delicate art of arranging to be caught". It is a courtship ritual that our ancestors discovered watching the courtship behaviour of other wild animals and fine tuned it for their own use. This ritual is still part of selfishly guarded rituals and esoteric arts.

The whole strategy is to give the other person the thrill of a chase when in actual fact you are the one who arranged to be caught. I’ll just reveal one secret of the delicate art of arranging to be caught.

You’ve probably heard that it’s always best to “leave something to the imagination." There is some sense in this in as far titillating and perhaps some extra provocation is concerned, but this is not the best way of arranging to be caught especially when the little that is revealed, shown or exposed does nothing to the imagination except to ask “why?" or “what for?" Even beautiful eyes, a sweet voice or interesting story have away of putting one off (and in some cases even distinctly revolting) if what is presented to the eyes has no apparent or sincere hint of fun and enjoyment, excitement and adventure or attraction and arousal.

The other person should not have to guess about anything. Most people are unable to accurately read other peoples’ body language let alone their minds. Take nothing for granted. Leave nothing to guesswork. I am not suggesting that we all wear revealing clothing, eyeball or ogle at every hot man or woman, flash breasts or grab crotches à la Michael Jackson; this is not “leaving nothing to the imagination", it’s bad taste and a sign of under developed sexual and social skills.

Leaving nothing to the imagination basically means that you build up enough intrigue and mystery (with every lingering look, every expression, every body move you make etc) to make the person wonder what makes you tick and what's going on in your "sexy" head. The person is excited, stimulated and aroused by their own imagination. Their own imagination feeds the thrill for the chase.

You do not really have to do much but relax and wait to be caught. There is no need for any “seduction techniques", no need to act like you’re not as excited, no need to wait as long as you can before you call after a first date and no need to pretend to be busy etc. In fact you can call him/her everyday or go out every evening just to feed more into his/her imagination. Nothing is more powerfully seductive than a person’s own imagination.

So - the obvious question must be: How the heck do you work with something as high speed and fickle as the imagination? This is a whole other secret - I discuss it a little bit more on my website.

About the Author: Christine Akiteng, Internationally renowned Sexual Confidence/Dating Coach and author of eBook: The Art Of Seducing Out Of Fullness™ helps men and women be effortlessly interesting, create ever-deepening emotional connections, inspire sexual passion, have lots of fun - and create a genuine and lasting relationship, all at the same time.

http://www.torontosnumber1datedoctor.com

http://www.theartofseducingoutoffullness.com

http://www.playinghardtogettheloveway.com

 

 

Internationally recognized Relationships Coach and author of three popular eBooks: Dating Your Ex, The Art of Seducing Out Of Fullness and Playing Hard To Get the Love Way, Yangki Christine Akiteng has devoted years of her life helping men and women create loving, authentic, exciting and fulfilling relationships. Having lived and worked in Africa, Europe and North America, Yangki brings a unique international perspective and multicultural understanding to her work. For more articles and information on the services she offers to singles and couples please visit: www.torontosnumber1datedoctor.com

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» left by Hayden
from Raleigh, NC 4 years 194 days ago.
Nice article! I'll definately have to keep this in mind for later =)
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» left by 4 years 194 days ago.
You welcome, Hayden... :-D
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» left by Anonymous 2 years 200 days ago.
Could you reply to my post on your other forum on how to be hard to get but make him fall in love still?, thank you so much, I'm the last one to post. :] Thanks again.
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» left by Anonymous 2 years 45 days ago.
not sure i agree with you.
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