10 Types Of Men Women Don’t Find Attractive
Posted: Tuesday, April 10, 2007
by Yangki Christine Akiteng
The Real People's Love Doctor
They say attractiveness resides on a subtle layer just below the surface of your skin but so does “not attractive."
I have written many articles on what women find attractive in men and how to become attractive to women but it is equally important to know what turns women off. So feel free to do some soul-searching, you just might be turning the women off without even knowing it.
You have this jaded idealized perception of women that is a result of limited personal experience and self-imposed ignorance. You are constantly on the look out for that “perfect" woman or throwing yourself at women who are obviously not into you or presenting some kind of idealized version of you that you think will meet her notion of “ideal" man -and no one is buying. For some reason most women prefer men with a more realistic perception and a little bit more experience with the opposite sex – and they can tell within the first few seconds of meeting you.
2. The Need-To-Know Addict
You are constantly trying to find out what women want, why women do this, why they react like this, why they say this and why they do that. You are so obsessed with trying to figure out women that if there was a door marked “Hot Women" and a door marked “Lecture About Hot Women" you’d line up for the lecture. And even when you meet women instead of engaging them and having a real conversation you start asking them “What do women really want?", “Why women like bad boys?" or “why do women shave their legs?". Women look at you like “do I look like a dating coach to you?"
3. The Superficial Air- Head
You are obsessed with the physical and phony aspects of a woman and reject potential relationships with good women for sadly shallow reasons like not big enough boobs, not bootilicious enough, not long enough legs or hair etc. You move from big boobs to bigger boob or smaller butt to a bigger one with no real and meaningful emotional connection with the women you meet or have a relationship with.
4. The Sexually Invisible-Man
If sexual energy were measured in terms of light, you are generating at the level of a 20watt bulb. You may have the looks, the clothes, the car and even the job and money but that’s it - no sexual vibes coming from you. Women walk past you into the arms of the next jerk who is nowhere as good looking, educated or “sensitive" as you are. You are just not there – nonexistent sexually.
5. The Wet Blanket
You see yourself as a professional, business person, a politician, an activist, a teacher, a doctor, a parent, etc., but not as a sexual professional, sexual politician, sexual doctor, or even a sexual parent. You are so paralyzed internally by the pervasive anxiety of putting the “right" front that your interactions with women are like boardroom meetings they’d rather avoid. Your “businesslike" persona comes across as uptight and not much fun to be around.
6. The Sexual Adolescent
You confuse everything with sex and only see women as suppliers of sex. Your interactions with women have only one goal – “what can I get in exchange for sex". And when your sexual needs are not met, you react with the emotional tendencies you learned in childhood and never outgrew—sulking, withdrawal, violence, manipulation, nagging, neediness, clinginess, etc. which turns the women off.
7. The Sophisticated Delusional
You are fully tooled up with the “right" attitude, latest techniques and sociological research about women. You are a smooth talking salesman type, good at presenting rational (and sometimes convincing) arguments. However, you make such a show of yourself that you end up with a reputation as a show-off with no real substance to back up your bragging.
8. The Angry Reject
You have a lot of repressed anger or extreme bitterness over the seemingly endless hoops you have to jump through to get women to notice you. You have a very difficult time accepting that women ultimately can and do say "No" to men. Your resentment and anger show on your face as a “pinched" look and your body language is a walking neon billboard that says “I hate women". The women give you attitude “we hate you too".
9. The Scared Spectator
You love women and are fascinated by them but you are also so intimidated by them that you are awkward in your one-on-one interactions with them. In fact you are so afraid of women that you’ve talked yourself into believing that all the women you meet will be hostile to you, and so you don't even try to approach them. You just watch, admire and lick your wounds (and desires) from a distance. They in turn dismiss you as “lacks confidence".
10. The Village Clown
You get so nervous around women that you can’t resist the impulse to resort to clownish behaviour. Some women might find you hilariously entertaining but in general your joker image and penchant for uncontained “humour" does not endear you to the women you want to be in a relationship with. Most women do not take you seriously – and a majority worry about how they are going to introduce you to their friends and family. Women want a man who can be respected by their friends and family.
The reality is that they’ll be women who’ll find you not attractive because you are bold, not tall enough, not handsome enough, not rich enough or successful enough and sometimes there is nothing you can do to add a few inches here and more hair there. But there are many things you can do to become so attractive to women that you will not know what to do with yourself. All you have to do is learn how it's done.
About the Author: Christine Akiteng is an internationally renowned Sexual Confidence/Dating Coach and author of eBook: The Art Of Seducing Out Of Fullness™. Her unique approach to dating has helped hundreds create positive, constructive, honest and fulfilling relationships.
Christine's websites: http://www.torontosnumber1datedoctor.com and http://www.theartofseducingoutoffullness.com
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More commentsI see the "angry reject" entry and I say "Hey, so you say that 'You have a very difficult time accepting that women ultimately can and do say "No" to men.'" Wrong, I'm afraid. I have a difficult time accepting that women always say no to me but yes to ugly mugs! That I think would be far more accurate. As it is, it betrays an underlying bias that says that we all just want women to obey us and cater to our every whim without argument and that we are full of outrage when we don't get our way. Such has been imputed to me personally which I find personally outrageous and really gives women a bad name as far as I'm concerned - I wonder how many others out there have been similarly poisoned.Please log in to respond to this comment.
as for me - most women do not turn me on at all because i do not trust many of them at all because they do not deserve to be trusted at all. as far as i am concerned - most women say no to men because of these 3 reasons:1) how much money you take in yearly.2) you property and/or things or if you actually OWN a house(renting does NOT count)and most importantly:3) the size of your cock. most women will just laugh, tease and heckle you in your cock is less than 9 inches long.with that being the case - just give me a good reason why i should find women attractive and give them a chance if they will not do it for me?Please log in to respond to this comment.
This article, while spitefully written by someone who clearly hates men, does hit the nail on the head. I used to be many of these guys, the ultimate nice guy that women definitely do not want. Then I learned from guys who were successful with women how easily manipulated women are. Just be the opposite of what is list here, even if you fake it and you will be successful. Women prefer a fake, that fakes to be stud, than a genuine person. Like a previous poster mentioned just be sincere and when you have trouble doing that (because she is an dingbat or whatever) just fake sincerity. In a way women may subconsciously know you are faking but they prefer that to the "average guy" the author portrays in this article. Exude confidence, treat them like dirt in a funny way (e.g. bust on them), and they'll love you no matter how ugly or fat you are. They are like trained seals, throw them a fish and watch them clap their fins together. This article confirms that.Please log in to respond to this comment.
Once more, I can only say that the author hit it right and unfortunately a lot of men just do not get it that way.Please log in to respond to this comment.
The two types of women men don't find attractive:
1. You are ugly
2. You talk too muchPlease log in to respond to this comment.
i think wemen are shallow and scandolouse and just want a fat dick in there vagPlease log in to respond to this comment.
What I think she might be driving at in this list could be summed up - for either sex - as being self-absorbed. Male or female: if you're looking to boost your ego, get laid, prove your self worth, make someone pay for the last one who did you wrong - people will smell it. Nobody wants that. And yes, I think she does come across a little harsh, particularly with her titles. Some of the other lists I've seen are even worse, because they major on externals like money, power and image, or give flat-out awful advice. All the money or looks in the world won't make a player a good person to date.Please log in to respond to this comment.
Modern Women no longer need rich men as much, they are now a lot busier in life and work. ThThey tend to go for the dark handsome type more and more but fail to find him as most of these guys are way below these successful women in the jobs market. They then have to settle for as near as they can get to the perfect looking guy.
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Hmm...this author really does tend to turn the screws on men. As previously noted, it seems quite likely that she may have alterior motivations to convince the male reader that he fits into one or more of these undesireable categories.
Having said that, I think that (unfortunately) she is bang on in describing the characteristics and behaviours that are a turn-off to most women.
I can speak from experience that the Sexually-Invisible Man category is quite accurate. Sexual confidence would also be an accurate term to use in this category. Like a lot of the frustrated guys out there, I'm not-bad looking, work out alot, well-groomed, nice car, etc., but women look right through me. Then you see the out of shape, unkempt slob driving the $500 beater with the hottie wife hanging off him. I just don't get it...Please log in to respond to this comment.
Oh for christs sake. The men who left comments here sound exactly like the kind of insecure idiots most women can't stand to be around. She is trying to give you advice. Obviously most of you don't have what it takes to follow a bit of simple advice. Make sure you don't fall into one of these catagories and believe in yourself. Oh, and quit complaining.Please log in to respond to this comment.
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