Is Your Handshake Creating Or Killing Instant Attraction?
Posted: Monday, April 16, 2007
by Yangki Christine Akiteng
The Real People's Love Doctor
Most people are blissfully unaware of the very subtle energetic messages their hands communicate about them and how those very brief seconds of physical contact could mean the difference between a great first date and one that is doomed even before it starts!
In just five seconds or less your handshake gives away information about you in these six ways:
1. Appearance of the hand
People who take pride in their hands tend to take pride in who they are - torn nails and dirt under even well trimmed nails raises doubts about a person’s self esteem.
2. Texture of the hand
While soft and delicately textured hands say you are an “ideas’ person with probably a desk job, a slight degree of roughness conveys a sense of practicality, a person capable of making things happen.
3. Moistness of the hand
The more anxiety, stress and tension the more moist the hand. Most people find moist hands “uncomfortable’ to shake. A very dry and cold hand on the other hand speaks of someone who is emotionally dry and cold.
4. The pressure you use
Bone-crushing the other person’s hand conveys aggressive and hostile personality or someone who lacks sensitivity which in turn creates “fear" rather than attraction. A limp lifeless handshake gives the impression of a “weak" or lackluster personality that lacks self-confidence and is easily manipulated.
5. Contact time
A handshake that is briefer than expected conveys lack of enthusiasm, interest, warmth and empathy. A handshake lasting slightly longer than expected communicates interest, attention and desire to get to know. This positive message becomes less and less positive when the handshake is over prolonged to the point that it becomes unpleasant.
6. Type of handshake
A person who has a habit of placing his/her hand on top during a handshake is more likely to be perceived as aggressive, dominant, controlling and demanding, while the one who has a habit of placing his/her hand under another hand is perceived as submissive, compliant and approval seeking (needy). An overly eager pumper is perceived as insecure and self-doubting, while the person who barely touches is perceived as unresponsive and boring, to put it mildly.
Such is the sensitivity of the human handshake. Even when the effect operates on the opposite sex at a sub-conscious level, as it frequently does, the overall effect is so powerful.
You might also want to check out the article: Creating Instant Attraction With A Handshake (articles section of my website). The handshake hints listed will give you plenty to practice for when you next meet that person who churns your heart. Better still, they'll create interactions that will bring out your “human warmth", making you instantly attractive to the person you shake hands with. When else, unless you make it to the hand-holding stage, will you hold that person's hand again? So without becoming obsessional about it, make your first handshake count.
About the Author: Christine Akiteng is an internationally renowned Sexual Confidence/Dating Coach and author of eBook: The Art Of Seducing Out Of Fullness™. Her unique approach to dating has helped hundreds create positive, constructive, honest and fulfilling relationships.
Christine's websites: http://www.torontosnumber1datedoctor.com and http://www.theartofseducingoutoffullness.com
People who take pride in their hands tend to take pride in who they are - torn nails and dirt under even well trimmed nails raises doubts about a person’s self esteem.
2. Texture of the hand
While soft and delicately textured hands say you are an “ideas’ person with probably a desk job, a slight degree of roughness conveys a sense of practicality, a person capable of making things happen.
3. Moistness of the hand
The more anxiety, stress and tension the more moist the hand. Most people find moist hands “uncomfortable’ to shake. A very dry and cold hand on the other hand speaks of someone who is emotionally dry and cold.
4. The pressure you use
Bone-crushing the other person’s hand conveys aggressive and hostile personality or someone who lacks sensitivity which in turn creates “fear" rather than attraction. A limp lifeless handshake gives the impression of a “weak" or lackluster personality that lacks self-confidence and is easily manipulated.
5. Contact time
A handshake that is briefer than expected conveys lack of enthusiasm, interest, warmth and empathy. A handshake lasting slightly longer than expected communicates interest, attention and desire to get to know. This positive message becomes less and less positive when the handshake is over prolonged to the point that it becomes unpleasant.
6. Type of handshake
A person who has a habit of placing his/her hand on top during a handshake is more likely to be perceived as aggressive, dominant, controlling and demanding, while the one who has a habit of placing his/her hand under another hand is perceived as submissive, compliant and approval seeking (needy). An overly eager pumper is perceived as insecure and self-doubting, while the person who barely touches is perceived as unresponsive and boring, to put it mildly.
Such is the sensitivity of the human handshake. Even when the effect operates on the opposite sex at a sub-conscious level, as it frequently does, the overall effect is so powerful.
You might also want to check out the article: Creating Instant Attraction With A Handshake (articles section of my website). The handshake hints listed will give you plenty to practice for when you next meet that person who churns your heart. Better still, they'll create interactions that will bring out your “human warmth", making you instantly attractive to the person you shake hands with. When else, unless you make it to the hand-holding stage, will you hold that person's hand again? So without becoming obsessional about it, make your first handshake count.
About the Author: Christine Akiteng is an internationally renowned Sexual Confidence/Dating Coach and author of eBook: The Art Of Seducing Out Of Fullness™. Her unique approach to dating has helped hundreds create positive, constructive, honest and fulfilling relationships.
Christine's websites: http://www.torontosnumber1datedoctor.com and http://www.theartofseducingoutoffullness.com
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