Seducing Women - Use These Secrets To Heighten Women’s Sexual Desire
Posted: Wednesday, July 11, 2007
by Yangki Christine Akiteng
The Real People's Love Doctor
A recent Psychology study showed that women who read romance novels make love with their partners 74% more often than women who don’t. I bet you didn’t even know that, did you?
See, before Reality TV and porn spoiled sex for the rest of us, sex was indeed a mystery and so many men weren’t getting any sex at all. But after Reality TV and porn, sex lost its mystery and even moral dimension - reducing sex to soulless two-minute animal romping just enough drive, energy and time to release equally lazy chromosomes. And just when we thought we'd lost the ability to be shocked, here comes the so-called Seduction Community to make seduction boring, uninviting, cold, heartless, soulless, and mechanical. This is something that the Seduction Community can never understand. Sure, you can get a woman to give you her telephone number and then what? And may be you can get her to have sex with you once or even twice but if you are so utterly unerotic and boring in bed she’ll not want you for long - and women do gossip!
And since men (and women) cannot be expected to produce any new useful “techniques" that will heighten women’s sexual desire, I’ll let you in on one of women's oldest and best-kept secrets - and it’s not women love reading novels before sex. So don’t read up until here, run to the bookstore and stock your bedside table with romance novels. That is the “mechanical" approach!
What I am talking about here is not a “romance novel technique or trick". It is the erotic soul of why romance novels make women want to have sex more often, but even more specifically, why romance novels can make your woman want to jump your bones.
1. A good romantic story triggers more questions than answers. With each chapter she gains some insights about herself and with something gained there are more questions.
And how does knowing this benefit you? So many men suffer from an underlying lack of confidence in their sexual abilities and desirability and this is reflected in the current trend of using “scripts" which are unoriginal and unrepresentative of who they really are as sexual individuals. The more value you place on someone else’s way of being sexual over your own, the stronger the fear of failing and being rejected will be. People who fear rejection have a tendency of rushing through the seduction process into the action of sex (or commitment). Rushing seduction and shortchanging the detail of the process in order to "grab" sex (or a marriage proposal) before she changes her mind is one of the most consistent weaknesses of post modern seduction - and dating.
If you want to drive her up the wall of sexual desire, make seduction look like straight out of a romance novel “he pulls her downward him, they tumble on the floor, she can feel his overbearing presence so close, trembling with unbearable passion she rips off his mask to reveal...someone she KNOWS?!?!"
Okay, I agree, I don’t do great romance novels, but you get the picture… RESIST THE URGE TO RUSH THINGS. Even if you know where you want to go and what to do, don’t rush. Taking each and every moment as new, significant, and necessary allows you to observe her sexual imprint (what turns her on and what doesn’t) and with each piece of information gained (not your preconceived ideas and fixed scripts) you use that to create a need for her to want more.
2. A good romantic story combines the elements of a little mystery and the promise of happily ever after. This is what seduces a woman to turn page after page.
And how does knowing this help you? I don’t know how many articles I’ve written telling guys: women aren’t turned on by a man’s rational intelligence (brains), women are turned on by how that intelligence is communicated. When it comes to the opposite sex and the matters of the heart, thinking rationally is not important, you must have the ability to make that thinking come true. In other words, the effectiveness of spoken word is not in the material presented but in the manner that material is presented.
This is not even about choosing verbally appealing words to describe every pixel of every image in your mind but about carefully selecting what will seduce her into wanting to experience it. If you can fully capture the EMOTION OF THE PROMISE of ever after (introduce her to her hero and show her living her everyday life with him, with the laughter and the tears) she’ll hang on your every word and be fully engaged, attentive, alert and one with you in the seduction process. She’ll think you are quiet confident because she senses your ability to reach within her and you'll feel confident because you can certainly do that. That is a huge turn on for women.
3. A good romantic story transfers the writers sexual fantasies into the woman reading it, the writer’s fantasies become the reader’s fantasies. Now, that is PURE seduction in its most potent form!
And how does knowing this improve your sexual life? If you have nothing sexually “fantastic" to transfer to a woman, you are as good as useless to her - sexually anyways. This is the SECRET of all seduction secrets. No technique or trick can create what isn’t originally there. This is probably a good reason why teenage boys like to take their dates someplace that raises their heart rate rather than to the library. Some of that excitement gets transferred to them. If you feel uh-uhm-uhm sexually desirable that will be transferred to her making her feel sexually desirable too. And when a woman is convinced that she is hot enough to drive you crazy, she really gets c-r-a-z-y. But if all you feel is insecure, inadequate, afraid of being rejected, angry, bored and/or frustrated, that's what you'll subconsciously transfer to your sexual partner. Whatever she feels from you, that's what you get. Bottom line, you’ve got to bring it to get it!
I’ve said enough already. Too much exposure (of a good thing) will remove the erotic mystery that surrounds it...:-)
I just have one thing to add. The beauty of this information is that you are not doing anything that looks like you are trying to seduce her. All you are doing is leaving some small clues for her to fill in, carefully building layers of emotion and desire along the way and letting her own restless mind and untouched primal emotions do the rest.
If truth be told, there is not much a man can do that can beat a woman’s own restless mind and untouched primal emotions because they are always one step ahead of you.
And you thought all you needed was the “right" technique!
About the Author: Christine Akiteng is an internationally renowned Sexual Confidence/Dating Coach and author of eBook: The Art Of Seducing Out Of Fullness™. Her unique approach to dating has helped hundreds create positive, constructive, honest and fulfilling relationships.
Christine's websites: http://www.torontosnumber1datedoctor.com and http://www.theartofseducingoutoffullness.com
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