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The mere mention of the word “seduction" creates a lot of anxiety for many men and women. Even experienced daters agree that the pressure to cause a particular effect on a potential partner can sometimes be too much, especially in today’s increasingly cross-gender hostile environment.

But seduction doesn’t have to be one sided and the responsibility of obtaining “results" doesn’t have to be solely on the seducer. This is one of the GREAT secrets of men and women who are naturals at seduction. They know that for seduction to be truly pleasurable to the point that it leads to something more, you have to draw in the person you are seducing into co-creating the experience. This way you don’t feel like it’s all up to you to impress or manipulate a passive participant. Infact with this kind of seduction there is no need to try to disable or break down his resistance and/or his willingness to employ that resistance because there is no resistance in the first place!!!!!

One example of such seduction is in the use of words. Words are very powerful when it comes to seduction, but it’s not the words that are powerful, it’s the way you use words that can take seduction to a whole new level -- and to the direction you want it to go.

For example if you want to tell a guy how you want to be loved, cared for, treated or whatever, and you know guys being guys don't want being told "what to do" and especially how they should love you or treat you, deliberately impregnate his mind with words that can be filled in a number of ways, and that invite and encourage participation without dictating it.

In my dating days, one of my favourite phrases was, “Life is fragile, handle me with care." We’d be deeply engrossed in conversation about some hardships in our lives or something equally absorbing and to break the mood, I’d simply say, “Life is fragile, handle me with care." After three or four times, all I would have to say is “Life is fragile…" and the guys would join in with “handle me with care." From the very first date, men remembered these words and every single one of them “handled me with care." It became like my “brand" the same way Paris Hilton has her “That’s hot!".

If they started to “forget" and start taking things for granted, all I would say is, ““Life is fragile…" and they’d come back with “I know… I have to handle it with care" or “This woman needs to be handled with care" or “Oh-oh! This means I am not handling it with care".

This is an interesting way of provoking thought and moving hearts. Unlike the other ways of “asking" that strike a devastating disconnection and sometimes create stress, this way liberates him once he realizes that there is no pressure and no need to become suspicious, distrustful, or antagonistic. His decision to participate is based on choice and will, not on manipulation and control. This is seduction in its purest form!

The best “catchy phrases" are simple and do not require a lot of thinking and planning. It can be anything as simple as a trivia question, or tongue-in-cheek witticism, something unique, something that he will hear and think, “This is a fresh viewpoint," or “This is an extraordinary way to look at the world," or “This is different!"

You will be surprised how easy it is to get what you want -- EVERY SINGLE TIME -- with so very little effort!

About the Author: Christine Akiteng is an internationally renowned Sexual Confidence/Dating Coach and author of e-Books: The Art Of Seducing Out Of Fullness, Breaking A Bad Relationships Pattern, and Playing Hard-To-Get The Love Way.

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