You May Be Living But Are You Truly Alive?
Posted: Sunday, August 17, 2008
by Yangki Christine Akiteng
The Real People's Love Doctor
Science says that because we breathe, we think, we feel, we grow, metabolize, can move, and are capable of reproduction that we are living beings.
You may be living, but are you truly alive?
See if you can figure out where you are on the Aliveness Index?
IN THE DEAD ZONE
When you are in the DEAD zone you'll know it. Most of your important needs are not being met and you are suffering with the knowledge that you are living a life that you don't want and does not reflect who you truly are. You may even have it all (money, career, family, friends) but still feel "soul starved," "overwhelmed," "burned-out" or "beaten up" by life. You have no energy most of the time and feel depressed, angry and worthless. You feel stuck, stifled and bored to death. You've basically lost any sense of genuine excitement for life and have numbed or tuned out. You're having a walking dead experience - but may be don't even know it.
When you are in the STRUGGLING zone, you are like most people, sleepwalking in the matrix with very few of your needs met and doing the same thing today that you did yesterday. You make decisions based solely on habit, tradition, obligation, responsibility or the expectations of others. You sense that you are not living the life you were meant to live and that there is much more to life than you are now experiencing but you feel that the life you long for is just a dream out of your reach. You keep telling yourself "one day I'll get myself out of this nightmare of a life" and even know what you need to do, but just not doing it. Everything seems so hard -- life sucks!
IN THE AWAKENING ZONE
When you are in the AWAKENING zone, your sort of awake but not fully woken up. You have a pretty good idea of what you want in life and most of your needs are being met. You fully understand that with some insightful and independent support you can get more of the kind of life you want and deserve. And you see that anything is possible and are quite happy with who you are becoming. But you also waste quite a bit of time swinging from kicking your own ass for wasting so much time in the past or for having been naïve or foolish to trying to understand the why behind everything and back to kicking your own ass. Being so hard on yourself and living in your head is preventing you from truly opening up to the fullness of just being alive.
IN THE FULLY ALIVE ZONE
You are living a conscious life that honors who you are and fully reflects the values and aspirations most important to you. You feel fully connected to those you love, fully engaged to life itself and are living a life that is an expression of human warmth and beauty of the inner and outer self. You have exceptional wisdom and foresight that helps you meet life's challenges head on and with candor, wit, healthy vulnerability and confidence. And although your life is overflowing with peace, joy, gratitude, serenity, happiness and love, you understand the value of routinely investing in yourself because you know that there is no limit to the abundance of life (but again, you already knew that).
Now, just how alive are you? Hmm?
About the Author: Christine Akiteng is an internationally renowned Dating Confidence/Relationships Coach who has devoted her life to the blending of indispensable age-old wisdom with modern realities into a prescription for passion, vitality, balance and effortlessness. Her thought-provoking message of conscious intentionality offers singles new, realistic and stimulating insights to rediscovering the mysteries and eternal beauty of men - women sexual relationships.
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Top-level comments on this article: (2 total)Hi Christine. Very nice article. You explain it all very well. I do think that you need a category between The Awakening Zone and The Fully Alive Zone, though. That's where I might put myself. Don't know what my husband might think about that. I've always found it best when examining myself to get an outside opinion. Keeps me humble. :)DiannePlease log in to respond to this comment.Thank you for the vote and comment, Dianne. Between the Awakening Zone and the Fully Alive Zone is a good place to be. Of course the goal is to be in the Fully Alive Zone but considering this works as a continuum index, you’re doing really well. Most people I work with are somewhere in the middle often times more in one zone than the other but evolving, changing, growing and becoming more fully alive.It’d be interesting to know what your husband thinks…:-).Please log in to respond to this comment.
what a great article Christine. i love life, it's magical and i enjoy it to the fullest. so most of the time i'm in the fully alive zone. but i'm not perfect. on occasion i would meander into the twilight zone between the fully alive and the awakening. but i usually realize that pretty quickly and bring myself back to where i belong. have a wonderful day!Please log in to respond to this comment.Thanks, Tanya. Life with all it's turns and twists, and the good, bad, ugly and sometimes very very ugly is - to use your word - MAGICAL... :-)). Keep enjoying it to the fullest. I'll have a very wonderful day -- you have one too!Please log in to respond to this comment.
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