No Thank You - African Women Are Rude and Stuck Up
Posted: Tuesday, January 27, 2009
by Yangki Christine Akiteng
The Real People's Love Doctor
I was talking to this good looking African man in his thirties, who says he is looking for an "all-African" woman for marriage but the African women he has approached are all arrogant, rude and stuck up.
"This sort of behaviour is un -African. Even when I go out of my way to be nice and friendly they act if I don't exist. I've been through this kind of thing a million times. I am tired of this s**t. It never enters the minds of these women that I could be smarter, more hard-working and wealthier than they are."
Now, everyone has their own personal taste, but I think that we (educated and successful) African women expect a lot more from our African brothers. The standard for them is sometimes set higher than the standard for men of other races. Don't get me wrong, I am not saying "lower your standards" for the brother, I am all for "high standards", but I also think that if a brother is "all together" and has a lot to offer the world, African sisters should give him a chance -- and not reject him just because he is African.
And if he is not your "type" for any number of reasons, there is a way of telling someone you are not interested without necessarily making the person feel "small". I know, I know, African men can sometimes be so persistent to the point that they are "irritating" but still... you can give him the "shoulder" without "sitting on his head'. And let's be honest, it's that "hold on tight like super glue" thingy that gets us sisters all "crazy" about the brother (if you know what I mean).
That said, the African brothers on the other hand should not assume that being "African" is a qualification and a right to have any African woman one wants. African women just like other women want the whole package. And if you get rejected because your package isn't wrapped well or doesn't weigh much (he-he), that's part of being a man (Mama should have told you) and may have nothing to do with you being an African. Perhaps the sister just doesn't like the "look of you", perhaps she's having a bad day, or perhaps she's already taken. It happens!
And for the brother who thinks being "African" is enough qualification, Son of the Soil, you haven't seen nothing yet. The climb just got steeper -- courtesy of Barack Hussein Obama.
About the Author: Christine Akiteng is an internationally renowned Dating Confidence/Relationships Coach who has devoted her life to the blending of indispensable age-old wisdom with modern realities into a prescription for passion, vitality, balance and effortlessness. Her thought-provoking message of conscious intentionality offers singles new, realistic and stimulating insights to rediscovering the mysteries and eternal beauty of men - women sexual relationships.Christine's main website: http://www.torontosnumber1datedoctor.com
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Top-level comments on this article: (1 total)Interesting article. Not being African, I can't really relate to the topic, but perhaps it is the same stereotype as 'all Italian men think they are romantic studs and God's gift to women'. Hey, what would I know? - I'm from a German background, were men are made to look serious, unemotional and hard-asses.Thanks for the great article.Please log in to respond to this comment.At least men of German background are consistent...:-) Joking aside, I’ve met a few people of German background, and serious, unemotional and hard-asses doesn’t always fit.I appreciate you coming by and leaving a comment.Please log in to respond to this comment.
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